Okie, I shall continue on with my ramblings about this love thingy and erm….the big M thingy a.k.a. Marriage. Now, have these questions or comments or crazy ideas came flashing into your mind before?

- Gosh! They’re getting married? Wow!
- Geez, she’s gonna marry him? What is she thinking!
- Aw man, that is the most hideous looking wedding dress I've ever seen. No way i gonna let my best
  friend marry him! Uh...ooops, am i asking her not to marry him?
- What? Me getting married? No way Jose!
- Awww...they're such a sweet couple. Erm...what? They're getting married? But why?
- Psst...ever heard of this? First he'll give you an Engagement ring, then a Wedding ring, then a Suffer-ring!
  Beware! Don't be conned!!

Ha! So now you get the idea. I am not the marriage material type of gurl. Nope! Anyway I think all of us do get to go through this part of life rite? So, it’s normal rite? And am I saying that someday I will too be married? Heck, who knows? Lightning could strike! I dunno. Hahhahaa….

Okie, back to the point, which I wanna convey, or would like you to think it over for yourself.

Just a few nights ago, my girlfriend and I were talking about this M thing. Hmm…not that we’re desperately searching for Mr.Right for hubby-to-be or we’re running away from it. Ah…once again, perhaps we’re just as confused as many others out there.

Frankly, those were the lines I would comment whenever I heard of what it was supposed to be, a happy occasion – a wedding. To me, marriage is such an overrated thing in this modern world. Perhaps I was brought up differently. I never did see marriage as a happy ending. Even as a kid, Cinderella and Snow White…ahhh…how blissful, they and their Princes lived happily ever after – NOT. I did not think so. May be many of the adults would like us kids to think of it that way. Thus came the nice and sweet stories such as these. Hey get real! We’re not living in such a world.

I was brought up kinda differently. Nope, I did not get to go to the zoo with my family or to go for a picnic or to go to church together. I did not get to quarrel and fight with my siblings. I did not get any punishment from Dad. And no, we did not get to live together under the same roof. And of course, I did not draw a happy family portrait in my kindergarten class. I wasn’t really a happy kid at all.

Ohhh bummers…please do not let my story sadden you. I am not complaining nor am I blaming my parents for their divorce. It was their decision and I guess it worked out all right now. Else I guess I wouldn’t be the person I am today. Perhaps I could be one helluva spoilt, demanding, and good for nothing gurl. Ermm…not that I am very good now anyway. * Chuckles *

I guess that was why I used to avoid even using this M word. It’s a big No-No. To me, why should we get married anyway? If I love him, and he loves me, ok, we’ll try to be together for as long as we could….period. But why marriage? It’s just like a big show for all to see – to show off your nice wedding dresses and to pretend how happy you were in front of all those people at the reception. Saying the word "I do" – to some, they might even think it’s awww….sooooooo romantic! D’oh!

Oh it’s even more outrageous that some would want to fly to Vegas to say, "I do" with Elvis being the witness and then go to the casino to try their luck, hoping to hit it big so that they could go to Paris for their honeymoon or something.

After the wedding, and then what? Making everything legal doesn’t mean that he’s going to be your life time partner. He could just walk out of your life and in 2 hours, get the divorce done, provided that he could pay for the lawyer fees that is. Someone once told me that there’s no guarantee that he’s going to be yours for the rest of your life. Unless you two were still together at the age of 90 or erm…perhaps you could say he was truly yours when you’re at your deathbed with him by your side.

So, in this case, why should we get married anyway? I don’t like the hassle.

Someone once told me that IF you get to marry the One that you love most, (let’s nick name him Mr. Right) Oh boy, you’d be the happiest person on earth! But what if you don’t? This person that told me this added that perhaps it’s true that we’ll never ever gonna marry the Mr. Right whom we love most in our lives. The hubby-to-be will most likely the second best. And as for the love with Mr. Right….it’ll always be buried deep down in our hearts. Now, I would just wanna take this erm…something that could be true or false. We can open this for discussion. Marriage is sucha controversial thing. I think no one will ever find out anything much if all these people are not telling the truth to themselves or to me?

I think true love is not easy to find. And when you have found it, perhaps you could not handle it or you would just choose to throw it away or wasted it or due to many circumstances, might not be able to keep it. Thus, the only thing left from this true love encounter would only be bitter sweet memories – and yes, bury it deep down in your heart too.

Then when a Mr. Nice-guy came along, offered you some security, care and according to him, "love" and then when you look around you, wow! Mom likes him! Hmm….auntie Annie thinks he will be a good daddy and hey, he could chat with Dad and oh my, he could play hop-scotch with those Sunday school kids. And of all things, he offered you a ring and did the "Will you marry me?" stunt…aww…how sweet of him. Then maybe you’ll think "Hey what have I gotta lose?" Then with a blink or maybe with two blinks, (oh I heard preparation for the wedding "show" is sucha hassle- so you need 2 eye blinks) the church bells went * pling-pliang *, both of you said the "I do" and Ta-Da! You’re Mrs. so-and-so….and you’re then a MARRIED woman. Hmm…very interesting eh?

Don’t you think this is a little too convenient?

Why do women choose security over true love? Just because he is decent, not bad looking, has a great job, with extra good credit history, your family adores him – ah, ok, go ahead and marry him. Yeah, you make yourself believe that he is that Mr. Right. Oh AS IF!!!

I guess that’s the reason why, after a few years down the road, that Mrs. so-and-so would still think of her bitter sweet memory, and her brief happy moment with Mr. Right.

In a way, I think true love is like a fantasy. And you know how hard it is to make a fantasy come true. Yeah, to make it real, I mean. So, it’s NOT easy at all to have a true love. You’ll find many obstacles and hindrances – gheez, Mom would think that he has bad B.O. or Dad thinks he’ll earn lesser than you would as a clerk, etc. But hey, listen to your heart, may be you could hear that gentle whisper in there telling you that he’s the One and the feeling could be really nice and right.

BUT!!!! Now here comes the silly BUT word again….

Some women are just too timid to go through the hardship and to overcome many obstacles with Mr. Right. Or perhaps, she’s just being too lazy and afraid to wait on for Mr. Right. So she’ll just grab one and get it over with. Get married, have a few kids and die. I wonder how true this is to all of those who’re married out there.

What a weird world! Everything is not what it seems to be. Nothing is as easy as you think it would be. And no one tells truer words than one’s heart does.

Oh perhaps I need to continue wishing upon a star and continue praying for my Mr. Right. Oh perhaps he’s already by my side now, I dunno. I hope to find out.

Else, shall I wait on for him? Or should I marry Harry instead? :P